Lucy - The Dating Dog

I’ve been on me holiers the last couple of weeks, sunning myself and playing non-stop. I had a grand time, frolicking on a nice beach and meeting other animals I’d never seen before. Who knew there were such a thing as pigs? Cute but a bit smelly. Here are some photos of me on the beach and with sme new friends I made on holiday. A big hairy donkey and a lovely pig. I still prefer dogs though.

While I was away, I was thinking of all of you. You know me, a big softie with all your best interests at heart. I got to thinking about the things that people sometimes ask on dates. I’ve eavesdropped on a few of few and I can tell you that there are some questions you should NEVER ask on a first date, or even a second or third! If you wonder why the person you liked never calls again or doesn’t reply to your texts, this might be something to do with it:

 

It’s always best to keep the tone lighthearted the first few months of a new relationship. Asking about someone’s marriage plans is a massive turn off. It puts way too much pressure on the other person and, honestly, it’s pretty personal stuff to be sharing with a virtual stranger, don’t you think?

 

If you want to know more about whether a person is serious about settling down, assess their lifestyle. Do they have a steady job? Are they settled where they live or do they move from place to place? A person looking to settle down is much more likely to be already pretty established in the first place.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some people look younger than they are. Some look older. Not everyone has Botox! Assuming someone is a certain age can get you in trouble. Just enjoy the person you are with and, if the relationship progresses it will most likely become clear what age the person is. Women especially don’t like to say how old they are right away. It’s not nice to ask anyone when you’ve just met them. It comes across as though that were the most important thing when really it should be about whether the person is someone you like.

 

Major turnoff. Asking a virtual strange what their sexual proclivities are when you’ve just met them is, well, rude. If you progress the relationship, you’ll find out all in good time. Besides which, it could give the impression that you’re a pervert and best avoided.

 

Or even €10. Asking someone you just met to lend you money is just wrong. It comes across as needy or even crazy. Some people like to be needed but it’s a dangerous game to get into early on in the relationship. It always leads to lack of respect and would turn most people off. 

 

If you think you’ve met the person of your dreams – hold onto that thought. Most people don’t react well to a person coming on too strong too soon. If you really think they might be the right person, give them time to catch up with you and a chance to make their own mind up. Most of us take more than a nanosecond to realize we’ve met the right person.

 

All this advice is to help you think about what might be important when you first meet someone. As I’ve said in previous posts, listening and paying attention to the person you’re with is probably the best way to move things forward. Have fun now at all the great dating events coming up!